3 Ways to Abundance not Scarcity

It’s a fine line isn’t it?  Having faith I mean that there will be abundance…rather than crossing over into the fear of scarcity.   Or indeed FOMO, the ‘fear of missing out’ another common phenomenon.

I have many conversations with clients about this pretty big mindset dilemma.  This can manifest in many ways too.  Scarcity can be a general perception of the future which is not enough’ness in some way…insufficient…in short supply…or that fear of missing out on something…there’ll never be another opportunity.  Or at least that’s what our inner voice (or negative voice) likes to threaten us with.

The general perception is one thing and then added on top is the castrophizing our minds like to do.  This has shown up with many clients in comments such as:

  • My staff will never improve or change, what’s the point
  • It won’t get done unless I make it happen
  • I have to get this done or else I’ll look bad, lose my job, look incompetent
  • If we share our talent, knowledge, experience with other organisations…I’ll lose my edge and customers

I wonder in a way if this is part of the human condition…half empty or half full.  I know in my own business and leadership I’ve fluctuated between both, depending on what life is throwing my way and my level of emotional resilience at the time.

What I’ve realised is that when I allow my inner voice to run riot this is the cause of the stress, anxiety, glass half emptiness – not the situation I am dealing with.

Scarcity can be a very stressful, uncreative, limiting and demanding place to be.  This is a completely different energy and focus compared to abundance – or my preference Trust.  What would that look like?  Trusting in you, trusting in life, trusting that whatever you do or don’t do – all will work itself out and all will be well.  Whatever happens you can adjust and will be able to handle it.

So my friends, 3 Ways to combat a scarcity mindset:

  • Check-in with Reality – ask yourself do you know what the future holds?  How many times have you expected one thing and something else has happened?  None of us know the future.  Consider the worst case scenario and how you would handle it if this were it to happen…
  • Focus on Possibility – focus on what you do want, what is working and what you can put in place to move towards where you want to be.  Get aligned with reality and focusing on the next step, even a small one, will move you forward into possibility
  • Trust – let go, release your grasp, loosen your grip on the demand that things be different to how they actually are.  Creating this space allows other creative possibilities to emerge which you are much more likely to see and say YES to.  Remember nothing is for life, we are only ever in the ‘right here, right now’ so in the next ‘right here, right now’ you can always course correct

Trust, be open…see what comes your way…see what happens…see what is evoked in you

Learn how to release your state from fear to creative possibility and learn the tools to keep this going for yourself, for the rest of your life.  Come and join me in a warm and welcoming environment, in my online taster session for The Power of Purpose course.

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Bye for now…

Nicci

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3 ways to Radically Change Your Results

hope and expect

I’ve been reminded this week at various points how important it is to focus on what IS wanted and what IS working.  This is a challenge eh?  I know this has been challenging for me many, many times.

It can be very easy to get into a complaining cycle, talking and focusing on what isn’t happening, isn’t working or what we don’t like.  Some organisation’s culture are totally based around this behaviour.

Thing is, there’s is a big cost to this and that is your results – and of course the quality of the experience to get there.  That experience more likely will be filled with stress, poor work/life balance and sometimes sleepless nights.

When you spend a large amount of time focusing on the negative, what time are you actually investing in moving forward?  What time are you investing in creating what you do what?  Have you even thought about that?  I was reminded again this week that when we focus on what isn’t happening, there is a danger that there’s actually little clarity about what is wanted – particularly in light of course correcting or changes in context.

How can you create something if you don’t know what it is or how you are going to get there? Different methods work of course for different people, however I do see many clients end up creating the minimum or far less than they are truly capable of.   Just imagine what would be possible if there was more focus on possibility rather than impossibility.

Staying focused in possibility can take a great deal of resilience of course, there may be many setbacks and it sure can be a big challenge to keep the faith and stay on purpose – especially when the road looks very different to expectations.

So 3 ways to shift your focus and your thus your experience:

  • Expectation – what was your expectation? Did this turn into a demand?  Not just the result but your expectation of others and yourself.  Hope is not the same as expectation
  • Switch Focus – focus on what you do want, what is working and what you can put in place to move towards where you want to be. Get aligned with reality and focus on the next step you can make towards your goal
  • Responsibility – what can you take responsibility for in all of it? Are you clearly communicating what you do want?  Is this understood?

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Fear or Fearlessness?

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Oh my gosh!!!  I’ve had a particularly difficult few weeks working through how to move forward with a certain project that really means a lot to me – and actually is a big contribution to my life purpose.

The challenge has been working in partnership with others who are fundamental to the project’s evolution and delivery.  There has been a lot focus on what’s missing, what people don’t like, what isn’t known, what they think I should be doing and sadly lots of conversation about me rather than with me.

It’s a really tough one isn’t it?  What do we do when our projects go down the road of fear and impossibility?  How can we shift the perspective to be one of possibility, positivity and creativity?

It takes one person to focus on what IS possible, what IS happening, what IS available, what IS wanted…what IS the truth…what IS…what IS…what IS.

So with my project, the truth is I want to create a project where the attitude is that we are FOR each other, we support each with what we don’t know and we pull together to work out a plan that works for all.  I want a team that is enthusiastic, encouraging, open, honest, creative…a team that focuses on possibility rather than fear of what may not work.

For me, this is what is going to create a successful project – the will, the FOR each otherness, the positive energy, the ‘can-do’ approach where we support each other through it all – including the challenges, tough decisions, wins, losses and tears!

And I’m guessing it’s going to challenge for me to stand up for my vision and be in my personal authority about what I do want – whilst keeping open to possibility myself.  Because the truth is there is a lot I don’t know, others may know a better way and they will for sure have lots of ideas that will bring more and more to the ultimate creation and delivery.

So here are some key steps to move from fear to fearless:

  • Share your feedback (your experience) and ask for what you DO want, 100% from the heart
  • Ask yourself how can I model focusing on what IS rather than what ISN’T?
  • Review where you are, is it the ideal time to get into planning or would some team connection/building be beneficial first?
  • Re-group, re-align, re-engage others into your vision of what IS, what you what to create, what the impact on the world will be.

Go for it!!!  You will BE the change you want to see…

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Motivation by fear of conscious choice?

hope not fear

So I woke up this morning and noticed I had a lot of tension in my face, I was almost a bit breathless.  I go on a 4 mile walk everyday and as I was walking I noticed this tension more and more.  I felt agitated and I had this sense of being ‘in a hurry’ and wanting to ‘get through’ my walk.

Then it suddenly hit me…I am going out today at lunchtime and there is a number of things, including this post, that I want to get done before I go out.  It occurred to me that my want to get this and a number of other things completed had turned into a push, demand, drivenness.  I mindfully tuned into what thoughts were running in my head and these were some of the things I could hear…I have to work harder, I have to work quicker, I have to focus, I have to get everything done..or else I will have failed, I’ll miss targets, I’ll let myself down…ultimately I was accusing myself of being useless and ineffectual.

Does this sound familiar?

My whole mindset and thoughts about the day ahead were being driven by a fear of failing and what sort of person id be if I did not meet the demands I had on myself.

How often do we do this?  Threaten ourselves into action….threaten ourselves into driving, pushing ourselves and ending up stressed, anxious, running through and through that hamster wheel like the world is going to end.

There is a different way.  Taking the steps to:

  • Be mindful – stopping to tune into these thoughts that are running and checking out what the truth is about these demands and accusations we are holding against ourselves
  • Choice – focus on what we do want rather than what we don’t want. Taking the time to explore what we want and WHY we want it.  We can use this as a motivation rather than threatening ourselves

Have a go and let me know how it goes?

We explore this in more depth on my The Power of Purpose course in January 2016.  I will be teaching some of the course’s extremely powerful, life changing tools to go through these steps.  This process will get us free of those fearful chains and liberate us to get off that hamster wheel…

Come and join me for a FREE taster session in Hertfordshire on Friday 8th January 10am-12:30pm.

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 Set yourself free…    

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