We all like to have a good rant don’t we? Especially at work – sometimes there can be a whole sub-culture which bonds people in the workplace or in a network. How we love complaining about the process, how others shouldn’t have behaved, how different things should be.
My question is – who knows how anything or anyone should be?
In leadership, as a business leader or owner, complaining can have a serious impact on you and your team’s engagement. Focusing on complaining and largely having a big fat NO to how things and others are, can seriously affect your time and alignment with your purpose – and ultimately this affects your results.
Of course sharing your thoughts and feelings is essential and this is an important part of connecting, discerning and collaborating; especially for the purpose of improving or developing. However there is a big difference between stepping forward to assertively be heard and passively complaining or colluding.
I realised this week that as I wanted to create a big difference in my results – naturally this will require a big difference in what it is going to take to get there. Change behaviour, change the result right?
I have had a tendency in the past to agree to a new commitment and then spend a time complaining because it isn’t how I want it to be. This attitude and behaviour can seriously affect my results. Whilst I’m using my vital energy and time complaining I’m not engaging 100%. I’m focused on my complaints, not my goal.
This challenge is a topic that frequently comes up with clients in their leadership. Which one are you focused on?
- Alignment with Reality – it is how it is. We can get aligned with this, be present to what is and go for creating our desired result. Be in 100%. Or indeed choose a different path;
- Disengagement in Leadership – we are focused on what isn’t, what should be different and what we don’t like. Our result = dissatisfaction, resentment, valuable time and attention is away from our desired result.
This reminds me of the music industry years ago. I remember a large amount of complaining about illegal downloading and how online companies shouldn’t be doing what they were doing. This went on for some considerable time. The cost was huge amounts of time and energy was spent on complaining – rather than realigning with the reality that the way people accessed music was significantly changing. The industry was seriously on the back foot in bringing about new ways of marketing and selling music and lost a lot of profit as a result.
So…are you in 100%?
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