3 Ways to a Bigger Purpose

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I’ve been working on a project for the last few months and a lot has happened in that time – especially the last few weeks.  I have been learning a massive amount for myself in my own leadership and what it takes to create energy, motivation and ultimately results.

I had somewhat of an epiphany yesterday about my own purpose with this project.  This was HUGE to for me!!  I’d been noticing that there was a ‘stuckness’ of some kind in me, there was something about this project that I was missing, that I didn’t feel connected to.  I realised after some coaching that I didn’t have a bigger purpose for myself – and this may be affecting my and my team’s engagement.  How could create more engagement in my team if they didn’t know what they were getting on board with?

So I started to ask myself questions…what was I really going for in leading this project?  Yes I had clarity about the ‘result’ but what was the bigger purpose for me in WHY I chosen to lead it.  This mattered because I was playing small – I’d been ‘going along’ with what others wanted, I’d been filling in gaps rather than stepping up to lead as ME with my vision and leading from the front.  And so my team were doing the same, ticking boxes rather than stepping up and going for what they wanted for themselves – and going for the bigger benefits that the project would deliver.

This made me realise too that I do have a clear bigger purpose with my business, the work I choose to do and how I choose to be when doing it.

So I thought I’d share with you my bigger purpose ‘hot off the press!’ as it were…for myself I am learning and developing my visibility, boldness and my authenticity – to enable me to live the life I want to live and be ALIVE and free while I am living it!!

For the business leaders and owners that I work with: I want them to be empowered, more authentic, open, honest, collaborative and more ‘we are in this together’ with their stakeholders, peers, teams.

And I want this for leaders because I want to see leadership in our world which is less separating…more open, transparent, creative, empowered, authentic.  Because this creates, high performing organisations where individuals and teams are empowered to learn, grow and bring the best of themselves to their organisations.  AND all this matters and contributes to how we experience our lives, how we grow our economy, how we connect in our world every day.

So, step back and take time to consider and reflect on your bigger purpose:

  • What’s Your Purpose – for you in your leadership, your team(s) and your organisation?
  • Communicate – how can you communicate your vision and purpose so others can be alongside you and get on board?
  • Living It – how can you live your purpose? How can you BE and what can you put in place to be living and working towards the projects that are going to create your purpose?   What are you going to commit to?

Don’t play small…open up your platform to play a bigger game…

Come and explore how to define, communicate and live your purpose in your organisation in a FREE 1:1 45 minute discovery session with me.  What are you waiting for?

I can’t wait to hear from you…

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The Cost of Complaining

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I thought I would share my purpose for the Transforming Conflict course I have coming up – as I have a massive passion for the impact this knowledge can have in our world.

I designed this new course because I am acutely aware of the cost of carrying on complaining, blaming, resenting and repeating behaviours in my own life.

Someone close to me said the other day (after a large amount of ranting and complaining on my part about numerous things that weren’t happening), well ‘sometimes you have to do things to get through’.  I had a huge shock!  Right there in that moment I thought…gosh that is exactly the sense I had in myself ‘getting through’.  Survival.

I realised that if I can carrying on complaining, being a victim of circumstance and resenting somebody or something for what I haven’t got.  What I get is a ‘hard done by’ attitude, I get to avoid handling things, I get to collude, complain, avoid being honest with myself and most importantly avoid responsibility for my part.

OR I can, in every moment I notice my complaining, choose to (through powerful awareness) get off and break the cycle.  I can make powerful choices about what is so for me, what I want, how I want to live and go for that – even if it doesn’t look like I thought it would.    I can say NO to carrying on this behaviour right now in this moment.  That’s all it takes to create a different way of behaving day by day.

What I get with that is possibility, creativity, openness, connection and freedom.

I mean how many people have events in their lives that they didn’t want or they haven’t got exactly what they thought they should get.  They are then aggrieved, maligned, frustrated, resentful, angry at themselves and/or others and the world.

You see this creates something in our world…anger, retaliation, conflict, lovelessness, separateness, hard-heartedness, a demand to control events, demanding of ourselves and others…fighting…all to discharge the pain of resentment.

How often have you withheld, retaliated, avoided out of frustration to ‘pay back’ someone or life for what you have or haven’t got?

When we each carrying this on in our every day lives, even at a minimal level, we create what we have in our world.  In our own individual worlds and in the world at large.

So this is my heartfelt, passionate purpose for bringing this knowledge to the world through Transforming Conflict.

I want to share powerful tools and another way of being in our world.

I refuse to carry on the cycle.  What about you?

Come and explore this in my Transforming Conflict Taster Session on Wednesday 2nd December 10am-12:30pm.  Book a FREE Place Here

We will look at how to identify and transform the behaviours we get into, find a different way to be and create different results.

The powerful Transforming Conflict course is running on Thursday 17th December, to book click here: Book Course Dec2015

Please book early, this will be a small group, so places will be limited.

BE the change you want to see in the world…

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The Power of My Purpose

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I started writing this post thinking I should write something interesting, eye-catching – compelling even.  Instead I am choosing to share with you the truth, what teaching The Power of Purpose really means to me and what I think is possible from my own experience.

I took The Power of Purpose myself in early 2011 and I went in thinking YES!  this is the course for me.  I am going to have this one licked.  I am really goal orientated, I am determined and I’m achieving – what can this course possibly offer me that I don’t know already?  I went in believing I knew how to be purposeful and I’d just have a few extra tools to use to my advantage.

What I learned is that being mindful about purpose isn’t about ticking a list (I do like a ‘to do’ list) or how much I’m getting through in a day.  Being on Purpose is about being clear about what I REALLY want, my heartfelt purpose for wanting it and what that really means to me.  This empowers me to make discerning choices to stay on track.  Even if that’s challenging or doesn’t look like I thought it would.  I can always course correct.

My purposes now are mindful, deeper, grounded and held by a strong vision of what difference I want to make in the world – and to myself.

When life throws those (sometimes massive) curve balls, I now have the tools to get off the hamster wheel, stop beating myself up and get back on track.  It’s an ongoing daily purpose in itself to be conscious of my purpose and not get distracted by a number of other things that I could be doing instead or things that come my way (ooh look a shiny object!).

You see I grew up believing there was a certain way to be and a particular path to follow to be successful, and I believed I had to survive by playing along.  Get a good stable job, get good grades, get a pension – be setup for life etc.  The truth is I never wanted that.  I wanted more.  What I wanted was to have the freedom to find my own path, to put my energy into work that I cared deeply about and that for me would make the difference.    And I wanted to empower others to do the same.

So here it is…teaching this course for me is about freedom, reminding myself and teaching others to use the tools that will liberate them from a life of demands.  This is the difference I am committed to making in the world.  I want more people to know that they can motivate themselves by consciously choosing rather than driving themselves through fear of what they will be or look like if they fail.  I want more people to live and go for the life that they are truly capable of and not be limited by their beliefs about themselves, others or life.  I want people to know they always, always have a choice.

For me this powerful course is about mindfully raising awareness of what gets in the way of my deepest purposes so I can consciously choose what to do with this information – rather than getting carried along.  When I am on purpose in this way I am ‘at cause’ rather than ‘effect’ of what comes my way.  I see different possibilities, I get much more creative AND discerning.  And very importantly I get to be mindful, improve the quality of my experiences and I’m much more present to enjoy the journey!!!  This is such a different perspective to what can happen when I end up ‘just trying to get through’ or driving myself to do more and more, quicker and quicker.  When I am in that frame of mind whatever I do isn’t enough.

We all have our own story and the truly amazing things is our story can be a powerful basis for our life purpose.  This is what I am learning now.  I am looking forward to hearing some of the stories, wants, challenges and visions for those who will be on the journey with me in the next Power of Purpose course.

Come along to a taster event running in Hertfordshire on Tuesday 10th November 4:30-6:30pm

FREE tickets here: FREE Power of Purpose taster – book!

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