I’m teaching one of favourite courses at the moment – The Power of Purpose. This is a course I am extremely passionate about, the tools have the propensity to completely shift one’s state from limiting fear to open possibility. This is transforming, both for life and in terms of what each of us creates in the world.
Whenever I am teaching this course my learning is always rich and evoking. This week I am almost seeing a beauty in how the very thing I am teaching about is being played out in parallel before me in other projects I am working on.
All this has reminded me of a big project I passionately wanted to create a while back – my hope (or as it turned out expectation) was that I would be met with open arms, trust, support, encouragement, acknowledgement – the reality was fear, limits, scarcity, bullying, exclusion. What a difference! I’m not suggesting questions or concerns weren’t hugely valuable (or indeed that ultimate outcome wasn’t what was exactly required),however it was the approach and attitude made a huge difference to me. There was a lot of fear, a lot of focus on what wasn’t enough and how things were had been done in the past. And there is a ripple effect – that ongoing attitude makes a huge difference to the results for myself and others.
And this difference has an impact on the bigger picture, the longer term results and ultimately sustainability for organisations.
When we operate out of fear our attention will likely be focused on one or more of the following:
- Holding on tightly – maintaining, protecting something or an ideal which we think will be lost if we let go or embrace something different, especially something more radical
- Resistance – to the new, different ideas, different paths, anything opposing our ‘ideal’ or current belief about how something should be or look like
- Saying NO – pushing back, holding onto our ideal at all costs and picking holes in anything outside of this
There is a BIG cost to operating from such a fearful place, such as:
- Impossibility – through the sheer focusing on what isn’t, openness is narrowed and ultimately willingness to see what is possible outside of what we know
- Innovation – this requires openness, curiosity, willingness to take risks. How likely is this if we are focused on holding onto an ideal? How likely are we to get creative and resourceful?
- Alignment with reality – when we focus on what isn’t and holding onto an ideal we are not aligned with the reality of what IS. Something may not be working, particularly if we are not getting the results we want. We are missing the opportunity to get on with correcting this as our attention is on what
- Engagement – from others, customers, partners, stakeholders, communities, supporters. How likely is it that others are going to want to be on board with such a fearful (negative) attitude?
I see a parallel … or some call it ‘you reap what you sow’. I’m not suggesting in any way that there is a perfect approach, just that the approach we take and attitude we give out is reflected back. Again and again.
So next time your results aren’t what you like them to be, take a moment to think about what you are resisting, saying no to or holding onto tightly.
Check out these 3 reflective questions:
- Payoff – what do I get from holding onto how I think something should be? Or resisting being open to different ways forward?
- Truth – what’s my worst case scenario? It is true (100%) that my fear will actually happen?
- Cost – what is the cost to me and my organisation of holding onto what was? What opportunity may we be missing in the present?
Be curious, be open…see what happens…
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