Motivation by fear of conscious choice?

hope not fear

So I woke up this morning and noticed I had a lot of tension in my face, I was almost a bit breathless.  I go on a 4 mile walk everyday and as I was walking I noticed this tension more and more.  I felt agitated and I had this sense of being ‘in a hurry’ and wanting to ‘get through’ my walk.

Then it suddenly hit me…I am going out today at lunchtime and there is a number of things, including this post, that I want to get done before I go out.  It occurred to me that my want to get this and a number of other things completed had turned into a push, demand, drivenness.  I mindfully tuned into what thoughts were running in my head and these were some of the things I could hear…I have to work harder, I have to work quicker, I have to focus, I have to get everything done..or else I will have failed, I’ll miss targets, I’ll let myself down…ultimately I was accusing myself of being useless and ineffectual.

Does this sound familiar?

My whole mindset and thoughts about the day ahead were being driven by a fear of failing and what sort of person id be if I did not meet the demands I had on myself.

How often do we do this?  Threaten ourselves into action….threaten ourselves into driving, pushing ourselves and ending up stressed, anxious, running through and through that hamster wheel like the world is going to end.

There is a different way.  Taking the steps to:

  • Be mindful – stopping to tune into these thoughts that are running and checking out what the truth is about these demands and accusations we are holding against ourselves
  • Choice – focus on what we do want rather than what we don’t want. Taking the time to explore what we want and WHY we want it.  We can use this as a motivation rather than threatening ourselves

Have a go and let me know how it goes?

We explore this in more depth on my The Power of Purpose course in January 2016.  I will be teaching some of the course’s extremely powerful, life changing tools to go through these steps.  This process will get us free of those fearful chains and liberate us to get off that hamster wheel…

Come and join me for a FREE taster session in Hertfordshire on Friday 8th January 10am-12:30pm.

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 Set yourself free…    

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