I’ve been working with various clients this week around leadership growth – what is it going to take to step from where they are to where they really want to be. Courage of course and interestingly the theme that’s been emerging this week is Acceptance.
How truly accepting are we of ourselves as educational leaders? AND how accepting are we of others and things as they are?
We may want a certain outcome or of course school results, however what we may get into is demanding that we SHOULD have it or things SHOULD be different to how they actually are. I mean why doesn’t it just happen? We’ve done more than enough haven’t we – worked hard, learned lessons, changed lessons, analysed the data, changed our leadership approach even.
What I’ve heard this week is a lot of frustration, resentment and sometimes bewilderment that things just aren’t how we would like them to be. We haven’t got the results we wanted or had the response we hoped from someone. And of course we really have no idea of what is going to happen next (unless of course there’s a crystal ball that I don’t know about!).
For me there a certain magical quality to acceptance, a peacefulness and most importantly an openness to things (and people) just as they are. I mean what’s the alternative? Stay in frustration and demand we have what we want?
I know for me resisting is often a much needed check-in between what I’d hoped for and reality. When I hold onto resistance this can mean not seeing the numerous other opportunities that are right here, right now – and of course there’s my own willingness to create new ones.
Are you accepting or resisting as an educational leader?