I’ve been reminded this week at various points how important it is to focus on what IS wanted and what IS working. This is a challenge eh? I know this has been challenging for me many, many times.
It can be very easy to get into a complaining cycle, talking and focusing on what isn’t happening, isn’t working or what we don’t like. Some organisation’s culture are totally based around this behaviour.
Thing is, there’s is a big cost to this and that is your results – and of course the quality of the experience to get there. That experience more likely will be filled with stress, poor work/life balance and sometimes sleepless nights.
When you spend a large amount of time focusing on the negative, what time are you actually investing in moving forward? What time are you investing in creating what you do what? Have you even thought about that? I was reminded again this week that when we focus on what isn’t happening, there is a danger that there’s actually little clarity about what is wanted – particularly in light of course correcting or changes in context.
How can you create something if you don’t know what it is or how you are going to get there? Different methods work of course for different people, however I do see many clients end up creating the minimum or far less than they are truly capable of. Just imagine what would be possible if there was more focus on possibility rather than impossibility.
Staying focused in possibility can take a great deal of resilience of course, there may be many setbacks and it sure can be a big challenge to keep the faith and stay on purpose – especially when the road looks very different to expectations.
So 3 ways to shift your focus and your thus your experience:
- Expectation – what was your expectation? Did this turn into a demand? Not just the result but your expectation of others and yourself. Hope is not the same as expectation
- Switch Focus – focus on what you do want, what is working and what you can put in place to move towards where you want to be. Get aligned with reality and focus on the next step you can make towards your goal
- Responsibility – what can you take responsibility for in all of it? Are you clearly communicating what you do want? Is this understood?
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